My travels are often about me. Let’s be honest, during these
last few years, every aspect of my life has revolved around my agenda - my
study schedule, my exam schedule, my rotation schedule - until this particular
adventure.
Midnight Sunday the girls were delivered to my mentor’s
home. Removed from their unsafe environment by the county; accompanied only by
the clothes they were wearing along with a jacket each. Nothing else. I arrived
two days later with my own carefully planned and packed suitcase along with my
emotional baggage and scattered thoughts – anticipating deep conversations with
my dear mentor-friend around her kitchen table overlooking the rolling hills to
the base of the massive mountains.
Each time I travel south to this place of restoration my
time spent here never matches what I anticipate. However, it IS always what I
NEED.
This time proved no different.
Each morning I arose expecting to establish my own rhythm to
the day starting with my run on the trails through the ranch land; the sun on
my face and mountains rising to the west. After a shower I planned to sit with
my coffee, reading. Somewhere later in the day she and I would likely dig into
our talks, exchanging ideas, asking questions, and identifying themes. We’ll
make dinner, I’ll bake, and we’ll keep chatting. Usually I leave my time here
with a mind recovered from the constant beating: ready to face the next days,
weeks, and months to come.
From the first morning on my agenda was challenged. The
coffee time invaded by these two girls. The quiet hours as the sun rose were
shattered with the constant chirps of an energetic 6-year old. The afternoon
filled not with intense conversation solving life’s problems, rather with the
constant energy of two busy bodies.
Each day filled with it’s own chaos. My runs happened not at
the first light of day, rather were stuffed into nooks and crannies found along
the way. The time of day revolved around the meal we just ate or from which we
were cleaning up or the one we were about to start preparing. I felt my anxiety
rise as my carefully planned time was overpowered and washed away by the
presence of these war-torn girls, rescued from the injuries of life, deposited
in a safe environment while the space from which they came filled with social
workers, case workers, and legal representatives.
My arrogance suffered its defeat as I sat at the breakfast
bar with my half finished coffee gripped between my fingers, the young girl
hovering with big brown eyes betraying the fear pressed deep into her soul. We
started the chore of creating a story: character development, plot, theme. No longer
able to sit still, I opened the cupboards pulling out the ingredients I needed
and moved about the kitchen: whipping butter, eggs, sugar, adding the spice of
vanilla, and savory salt. The 6-year old climbed the stool next to me to
“help.” My once precious space dominated by little hands longing to take part
and a hungry mind desperate for guidance.
With the sun streaming through the window and the
Kitchen-aid whirring these two beating hearts captured mine. Where once I
thought children would bring struggle and strife to my driven, achieving life I
find welcoming unexpected little ones expands breath and fills life to
overflowing. Their chaos breaks my carefully put-together life. Where I once
counted accomplishment and success by the number of patients admitted or
discharged, or the number of surgeries performed, or the pace of rounding, this
Friday I found achievement in helping with homework and baking cookies.
I have spent much of this year (from March 2013 until now)
attempting an attitude of thanks, hoping to cultivate joy. And while I am
thankful for my life and perhaps starting to unwrap joy, these two resilient
girls, plunged into the sea of foster care have redefined thanks, exposed a
deeper joy, and brought forth a greater love than I have conjured up through my
own experiences. I am better for this breaking, this surrender of my plans. The
greatest joy is not in my scenic runs, rather in meeting a little one’s needs.
The fullest life is not in the shoes I buy or the slopes I ski or the board I
paddle, rather in the unplanned moments that shred my agenda; leaving me
breathless and wanting more.
Regardless of how much I think I have accomplished or
achieved, being in the presence of my mentor teaches me I have a very long way
to go. As she and her husband welcome these two girls into their home for an
extended period of time – suspending their ability to travel or have their
house to themselves - I am quickly humbled; slowly learning to surrender my
agenda for something far greater.
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